Why does God close doors?  Is it because He doesn’t love us?  No.  Is it because He wants to take our free will away from us and control us?  No.  Is it because He knows we can’t make decisions on our own?  No.  They why?

I have been struggling with a relationship with my committed partner’s daughter for over eight years since her father passed away.  She’s a very manipulative person who feels that she is entitled to everything, and she has made the past eight years very stressful.  I feel she used the emotions experienced by so many of us during this pandemic as a way of getting back into my life to get a sum of money from me that was detailed in a simple, legally non-binding piece of paper typed by me for her father.  My committed partner wanted the money he put into my home renovation to be returned to his children after I either sell my house or I die.  As with many estates, she and her brother have been very emotionally abusive of me, many times to the detriment of my health.  They don’t seem to care if giving this money back to them will have major financial consequences for me.    After much discussion with my financial advisor, I have a plan to manage this problem without losing my own financial security.  I cannot help but feel that God is the one who is closing the door on this relationship.   I have been asking for His help through my prayers for years, and now, I’m feeling a sense of peace at having found a solution to the problem.

We do not know why God closes doors and opens others for us.  He has a better door for us to enter.  He loves us so much that He gave us His only Begotten Son to die for us.  He provides the energy to push us through to a more appropriate door and gives us strength to make the hard decisions.  He knows what doors need to be closed and when.  He reaches out to other people by closing doors because He wants to reach as many people as He can with His Word.

We all go through storms in our lives.  How we approach those storms is what determines whether we survive those problems or if we fall under their weight.  Either way, God is always by our side, holding the door open for us to find a better life, a better word, a better thought, a better deed.  There are three ways we can manage our storms.  One, we need good counseling from other Godly-people.  Two, we need to stay in the problem with God by our side.  Three, we need to step aside and let God come up with a better plan.

Tomorrow morning, I will post my letter to this young woman.  I hope she realizes that this plan is a good and God-ordained plan for the resolution of her entitlement character and those of my heart.  I have to let go and let God.  I can do no more.  I received the good counseling, I’ve stayed in the problem for eight years, and I’m stepping aside to let God do His plan.  Whether this young woman accepts my plan or not is not why I know it’s time to close the door.   What matters to me, and I believe to God, is that what I am doing is with love.

Anna Hartt